Every morning, I wake up early and make my husband a salad for his lunch. When my kids get up, I make them healthy breakfast because I believe that breakfast is the most important meal of the day. It dawned on me the other day,
“What do I eat for breakfast and lunch?”
During conversations with friends and clients, I find it very common that a majority of mothers are very good at taking care of loved ones at the expense of taking care themselves. I place myself in this category. One friend said to me, “I don’t remember when the last time I ate the WHOLE TOAST. I always eat what is left from my kids, the crusty ears of the toast”. Another one said, “I don’t bother to make lunch for myself because I know I will have to eat the left overs from my kids”. When women are pregnant, the reason for us to eat healthy is because “we are carrying a baby”. What happened after we deliver the baby?
Today, I would like to advocate for women, especially tired mamas. We NEED to take care of ourselves, first. We hear about “self-care” for mothers all the time in media (not so much for fathers, for some reason). When we are on an airplane, the safety announcement always tells us, “adults must put their oxygen masks first before helping your children.” It is the same concept. We need to care for ourselves first, before caring for others. Why? Because if we collapse the whole family is likely to collapse with us. When I delivered my second child and I stayed at the hospital for 2 days, my husband was taking care of the home and our oldest child. When I returned home, he said, “I am so glad you are home. I saw that the home was deteriorating”, only after two days.
So what is this “self-care” I am referring to? I am not talking about “self-indulgence”. “Self-Indulgence” is good, too, don’t get me wrong. I think that once in a while it is great if you can take a few hours off, and get a pedicure, a massage, go to a girls’ night out, or go on a shoppingspree. What I propose to you mothers out there today is to do something for you, every day. For example,
- Get up 15-20 minute early to make yourself a healthy breakfast and eat without your kids.
- Make sure you have your own plate for lunch, NOT left over from your kiddos.
- Drink water.
- Soak your feet for 10 minutes at night.
- Do 10-15 minutes yoga or other light exercises.
- Make yourself a healthy smoothie for snack.
- Practice deep breathing 3-5 minutes a day.
- TAKE A SHOWER (You know what I am talking about if you are a mom)
It is true. Happy mama makes a happy family.
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